Contrary to popular belief, swingers clubs are not just reserved for couples. Although not universal, many are open to swinger unicorn. Whether it’s on particular nights or swingers events, it’s not uncommon for guys to attend. However, the entry price is often set higher to keep the male to female ratio even.

Whilst not unwelcome, single males may often find it more difficult than if they were attending as a couple. So to get the most of your first time swinging experience, here are top pieces of advice to incorporate as a swinger unicorn.

Don’t be aggressive or come on to strong

Here, we get to one of the most important rules for visiting a swingers club as a solo male. Be respectful and don’t come on too strong to other couples or solo swingers. Sadly, I’ve seen too many single guys persisting with disinterested women and pursuing them around a club like a lion with a wounded gazelle. Not cool, guys.

Yes, it’s a sex club. But not everything has to be about sex from the get-go and this doesn’t warrant uninvited touching. If you expect to walk into a club and be able to inappropriately touch other swingers, you’ll rightfully be told to leave. Start a conversation, offer to buy them a drink, as you would in any other club.

Also, don’t feel that you need to kick off a conversation with something related to sex or drop innuendos throughout. For me, hearing this from a guy I just met signals a lack of sexual confidence. Just relax, be yourself, and be unique.

In summary, a first-time swinger experience swinger unicornwill be positive and memorable if you follow the following basic principles:

It’s fine to let things get freaky.

There’s a common misconception that wanting to explore fetishes in your relationship means you’re dissatisfied or don’t feel connected to your partner. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Sharing your innermost sexual fantasies with your partner can increase the intimacy and trust in your relationship. If anything, the conversation– and if all goes well, the potential sex– will end up bringing you closer. If you want to upgrade your sex life from vanilla to more, let’s say, meat and potatoes, it’s time to have a conversation with your significant other about what really whets your appetite.